I remember the moment I found out I was pregnant. We had gone through two years of trying to conceive, of questioning if it would be possible. But in that moment, I forgot all my doubts and questions. I can still remember the first time I felt her kick, and the holy place God revealed her name. My family’s excitement is forever etched in my mind. I recall my niece asking when her “cousin baby” was going to be here. Emotions I had never known before rose within me the instant my daughter was placed in my arms. I felt the weight of the responsibility and an extraordinary, protective love. Almost nine years later, her head resting on my shoulder as I wrap my arms around her has the ability to erase all doubts and worries.
The weight of the responsibility and the extraordinary, protective love have only grown stronger with each passing year.
The Beauty of Motherhood
Only women can give birth. Duh. We all know that fact. However, I so often take this for granted. Women were created to physically carry and birth a child. How amazing. We, as women, need to realize a child is a gift.
Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. (Psalm 127:3)
Women who are called to motherhood need to know the importance of this role. Mothers have the unique role of teaching, disciplining, training, and nurturing our children.
The Work Mothers Do
Yes, being a mother is hard work. When I consider the work mothers do, I understand why we often teeter between exhaustion and excitement. What are mothers commanded to do?
- Be available. (Deuteronomy 6:6-7) Please do not misread this. Moms, we do not need to hover over our children at all times. However, we do need to be available to them in order to fulfill our role.
- Teach our children. (Psalm 78:5-6; Deuteronomy 4:10; Ephesians 6:4) We are to teach them biblical principles and biblical worldviews. In opening up conversations with our children, we are also showing our involvement in their lives. The world is more than happy to teach our children ideas opposing Scripture. We serve as the front lines in protecting our children.
- Train our children. (Proverbs 22:6, Romans 12:3-8 and 1 Corinthians 12) A mother’s training will help her child to discover his/her spiritual gifts and strengths. As we teach our children, we are also training them. I love watching my child discover activities she enjoys and excels at. While I encourage her to try new things, I also do all I can to support her gifts and strengths.
- Discipline our children. (Ephesians 6:4; Hebrews 12:5-11; Proverbs 13:24; 19:18; 22:15) Discipline and abuse are two extremely different actions. The goal of discipline is to correct, teach, and encourage children. Our children are going to make mistakes and bad decisions. However, consistent discipline (when needed) helps a child know he/she is cared for and safe. Just as God disciplines us in order for us to grow and learn, we should discipline our children.
- Nurture our children. (Titus 2:4; 2 Timothy 1:7; Ephesians 4:29-32; 5:1-2; Galatians 5:22; 1 Peter 3:8-9) Nurturing a child involves encouragement, the freedom to fail, support, and unconditional love. Do you want to see the world become a better place? Nurture your children. Love them well, speak words of encouragement, and walk alongside of them when they have made a poor decision or are hurting.
- Model integrity. (Deuteronomy 4:9; Proverbs 10:9; 11:3; Psalm 37:18) Children learn best from modeling. I can remember times my daughter was playing with dolls and went into “mommy mode.” There were times this was hilarious as her words and mannerisms mimicked mine. However, there were also times her impression of me were convicting. Our children will learn godly behavior by observing us live it out.
Be encouraged, Mom, God is working in and through you. You are not in this alone, ever. As women, I want to see us join together to support and encourage one another. Our goal as mothers is not to have children who make the honor roll and have excellent behavior. No, our goal is much greater than that. Our goal is to raise godly adults who walk in Spirit and in truth.