Know Your Priorities
Family is beautiful. My family matters a great deal to me, and always has. Yes, these people can drive me crazy. But at the end of the day, they are also my favorite people on the planet. They are the ones I turn to when life is good, bad, or ugly. When opportunities arise, I turn to them to determine if the opportunities are for me. They drive me crazy, yet keep me sane. At the end of the day, no opportunity is greater than serving my family. In fact, I know I cannot say yes to everything because my family would suffer the most. A wife and mom who says yes to everything is one who becomes exhausted and on edge. (You will have to trust me on this one, I may know this firsthand.) I often find myself asking if the situation being presented is in line with what I have deemed most important. Does it align with my priorities? Does it align with God’s calling on my life? Finally, does it align with God’s word? If the answer is no, to any of those questions, my answer must be no.
Sacrifices Will Be Made
As a writer and speaker, there are sacrifices we must make as a family. The biggest sacrifice is time together. When I am in the middle of a writing project, there are hours in the day I need to lock myself away in my office. While that does not always guarantee I will not be interrupted, my family also serves as my best cheerleaders. When I leave to speak, they cheer for me again. It is a hard kind of beautiful as I pack my bag and my daughter says, “I’m going to miss you, but do a good job.” There will never be a day I enjoy leaving her behind. Yes, the time away is wonderful, but I am better because of the ones living in my home. What we have learned is God has magnificent lessons for us as we each make necessary sacrifices. No, we may not always enjoy those sacrifices, but we know the value of them. Every yes, even the best yes, will always require a sacrifice. The question we must ask is what sacrifices are we willing to make?
Wearing Many Hats
I am a wife, a mother, a writer, a speaker, a life purpose coach, a daughter, a sister, and a friend. I serve my family, and I serve my clients. Many of you wear many hats too. You may work inside the home, or you may work outside of the home. Not only are you caring for your family, but you have responsibilities at work, or as a volunteer. I have worked with women trying to wear more hats than fit on one head. Not all hats are for us, and we need to be okay with that. Are you feeling weighed down? What hat needs to be removed? This will look different for each of us, and friends, that is okay. Some families, and people, thrive on full schedules. Other families need down time. Neither is wrong. We need to decide what works best for us, for our families, for our lives. I believe we also need to consider the motivation behind each one. Do we serve solely for recognition? Have we signed up our children for activity under the sun because of what others might think?
Who deserves our best yes?
Who deserves our best yes? For me, it is my Father and my family. All other things fall after those two. I have become frustrated when business was growing like I hoped, but those have been seasons I was investing in my family. For me, I chose to say “not now” to some opportunities because my being at home worked best for my family. Your situation may be completely different. Friend, I support you. When I am speaking, the audience receives my best every moment I am on stage. When I am working with a coaching client, she receives my best during the time we have scheduled. I can admit, my family has not always received my best. Thankfully, they also forgive me. Along with our priorities and our responsibilities, we must consider who deserves our best yes.
Friend, there is no “yes” fitting for every single one of us. We have different situations, responsibilities, callings, and purposes. Your yes may be different from mine, and mine different from yours. Neither one of us is better than the other. We are a people desiring to follow the path God has for us. If you have been given a family, I believe they deserve a place of priority.